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Forgiveness:The hardest thing to “give”

In Faith, Hope, Love on January 7, 2012 at 5:00 pm

Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to “give”
But if you don’t forgive it’ll keep you from God
He’s working on me to forgive those that still don’t realize what they’ve done. I want to be close to Him, but if I have unforgiveness it will stand in the way

Matt 6:14-15: For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses

So, If I’m a Christian and my example is Jesus, then I need to forgive and pray for those who are still in the business of hurting me or those I love. (

But to be completely honest, it’s one of the hardest things to do. You “feel” justified in holding on to the hurt or resentment caused by the person or persons. And while you may not wish evil upon them, you don’t necessarily wish them well either. In some case the mere mention of their name brings about anger or instead of being angry you simply are numb towards them or the topic. You put on a good front, but inside…that issue still gnaws at you every time.

What we don’t realize is that, holding onto that grudge, or merely trying to just “forget about it” does not allow us to move past. It hinders us from our relationships and most importantly God. There is a reason my we are told to forgive, God knows everything about us. He knows that holding on (because that is what we are doing, “holding on” instead of “letting go”) to unforgiveness causes us problems in all areas: Mentally, Physically, Emotionally & Spiritually. So your feelings of justification to holding on to that issue(s) are totally misleading (EVEN IF they have hurt you over and over again….Matt 18:21)

Now it’s easy to say that we have to forgive, but a whole other thing to actually do it. I mean if we could actually forgive on our own we would do it, right?

There’s no 12 step program to forgiveness, only seeking God for help. From a spiritual standpoint, the Holy Spirit convicts us and shows us our heart.  God confirms with scripture how we are supposed to act towards others and how we are supposed to pray. He seeks after our hearts, not our intellectuality. When you know you need to forgive but know you are struggling to move past it, that’s the time to pray and ask for help. He will hear you and help to change your heart and mind. (Jeremiah 29:12). When we don’t forgive, we can’t pray in the way that Jesus prayed (Matt 6, Luke 11) and we can’t have forgiveness for our sins.

Could you imagine the freedom that forgiving others gives you? No more stomach churning, blowing up at people, shutting your emotions down, being hindered from getting close to Christ – Amazing! (John 8:32 Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free!!)

By no means am I completely there yet. But I am seeking His face and asking the Lord to change my heart and attitude towards others who have hurt me or my family so I can be just like my Hero…my Example…my Lord…JESUS! Who prayed for his enemies, while they divided his clothes as He was being crucified – the same people who spat in His face, mocked Him, and set Him up to be crucified. Yes…THAT’S WHO MY EXAMPLE IS!

Luke 23:34 “Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”

Psalm 51:10 “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me”

Psalm 139 “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”